There is only one basic principle in this magical process of working on yourself to become a pure gold of a person. Without understanding this principle, the art of creating a strategy, setting up the rules, analyzing your personality traits to understand what causes what and dealing with the consequences is absolutely pointless. This principle is so important that to think outside of its concept is not only foolish, but harmful. So here it is:
What’s Your Value?…
Generally, the main base of love relationships is your subjective value in the eyes of another person.
That simple fact however very often is not fully understood. Most of us don’t get that our subjective value (SV) in a very beginning of meeting someone is very low and even nonexistent but is changeable in process of getting closer.
The actual love is the growth of SV and your influence in the life of that special person. He(she) looks at you from the different sparkling angle even if your objective value is minimum.
Objective value of the person (OV) represents your importance to strangers in general. It’s the difference between your value and the value of another person. It’s how you are looked over in the society compare to others. And that’s what people evaluate when they first meet you.
Approval Junkies
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QysRVMxkWUk
I want to talk about Ego. The concept of how it works and it full impact on us was very well explained in one of my favorite movies of all times – “Revolver”. I don’t even know if Guy Ritchie actually realize what masterpiece he has created when he made this movie. Because everything that’s been said and portrayed in it can be applied to literally every aspect of human existence including the love life.
Introduction
As far as I remember I was always in love. I was dreaming love, longing love, falling in love, falling out of love, reading about love, preparing myself to love and so on, and so forth… Thoughts of love concepts and theories were created in instance and were dissolved as quickly. If I only knew back then that people’s romantical interactions consist of only 20% of affection and 80% of pure human psychology, I would probably saved a lot of time trying to figure out if the true love really exist or it’s an ancient myth. And here I’m, one divorce and a few unsuccessful relationships after, still looking for Him whether I want to admit it or not.
You know, every time after I look in a scary face of another inevitable break up, I do that thing of analyzing what went wrong, in order to sort of improve, learn my mistakes and give myself time to let go and heal. While I’m grieving at another love funerals, I usually catch myself thinking the Bridget Jones’s inevitable remark: “Next time I won’t f**k it up!” And the time has come.